Talking about emotions is not encouraged
When asked how we are, most of us will answer “Thanks, I am fine.” To share our emotions or feelings in any daily situation might feel akward and such a question is not meant as an invitation for in-depth conversation.
But emotions are behind every move, everything we do all day. They influence our reactions, our actions and how we perceive the world. Only, this is not yet common knowlegde and as humans we consider ourselves as rationally acting people. “cogito ergo sum” from Descartes seems to define who we are. And yes, our ability to question everything, can guide us to consider all the information that our bodily senses gather and transport to the brain as food for thought – and for emotions.
Emotions are unconsiously influencing us. To make ourselves aware of them, we have to learn about them. Neuroscience is a growing field of academic research, and we learn more and more about how the brain functions.
That does not only help people in science, it can enhance our own knowledge about emotions and has a growing influence on therapy and coaching interventions and tools.
We should find words for our emotions
Learning more about emotions and finding precise wording for them, can increase both our own recognition of our emotional state and our empathy with other people.
When children are being asked what they feel, they often lack the proper words to talk about emotions. Children have high intrinsic motivation to learn, they are – like all humans – driven by on of our primary emotions: interest. With this emotion, as humans we venture out constantly to explore our environment.
As babies we go in contact and communicate with our parents or primary care givers. At first, to find healthy food to eat and to be safe.
To grow our knowledge on emotions is beneficial for any communication, and why should we not start with our children? When and how – and if at all – we talk about emotions in the family can have great impact on our childrens personal development.
Precise and appreciative wording will influence your family conversations and create an open and trusting atmosphere even during discussions and will tighten the bond between all family members. For children, this can make all the difference towards becoming responsible and happy adults.
Emotions are key to us also in any new situation or under difficult circumstances. They are universal for all mankind, but sometimes difficult to read when we are abroad and communicate with people from different culture backgrounds.
The better we understand ourselves, the easier we can open up to other people’s emotions
When training to become an emotion coach, the world of emotions opened up for me and I learned about the needs that stand behind our emotions. It taught me so much about myself as well and I am very thankful for that.
I am happy to share my knowledge and ideas here on the blog with you.
Be curious and stay with me. I will post more soon!
